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That was Random…

I just wanted to share “again”  something that I noticed the other day talking my daughter, Michaela.

My husband was taking me to work last week and our babies (not so much babies) were in the car and my daughter said to my oldest son, Elijah .. “Have you lost all of your teeth”  in which he answered after thinking for a minute  “No”.

So, she goes on to ask him … “Well, when did you start losing your teeth?” she yells to me in the front seat … “Mommy, when did Elijah start losing his teeth?”

I told her that Elijah began losing teeth when he was five, I said you don’t remember Micci and she answered and said “No, I was only 2”.

“Ding, Ding”  … that’s when I had a moment.

….. I always tell people what intrigues me is that in a relationship such as a marriage;

you have two separate lives now that you have to mesh together all the while still respecting their life individual calling and purpose.

I hope this is making sense.

It does in my head LOL.

But we are taking each individual life and now making it one.

I take my husbands attributes his gifts and talents .. his ultimate life purpose and not only am I pushing him, not only am I trying to push him to seek out what is it God has placed within him ..  and at the same time he does likewise with me.

Cool thing is, is that both of us can benefit from one another!

In the natural … he is a network engineer. His aspiration is to own his own company doing all that great “techy” stuff.

My aspiration is to open a transition center for women.

Ok, our two individual aspirations .. can become one when I finally open my center and he has his IT company and we come together and do business.

We have intertwined our aspirations.

So, I said all that to say …

That is kind of confirmed everything that I thought before.

Even in my children’s’ lives and the way I viewed them.

I realized that even though they are under the same roof  and share the same parents, they both have their own separate gifts, talents and purposes.

It was just an eye opener for me … to hear that she did not remember when her brother lost his teeth and even though they were under the same roof they were in different seasons and at different points in their life.

I love that  at any given point you can be in a crowd of  people and they are all in different seasons of their life.

Awesome thing is … God is tending to all of them, pruning some, watering some, inspecting fruit on some, and uprooting some.

That right there also reminds me and causes me to respect the seasons of others.

Just because I am in the season of harvest (just as an example) does not mean I pick on, beat up and judge the next who is still in a time of sowing.

We need to be sensitive of those around us and not so quick to “judge” someone.

We are called to be ready in and out of season to correct,  rebuke, and encourage with GREAT PATIENCE AND CAREFUL INSTRUCTION.

So while we do not have to be a “respecter of  persons” we do need to be a respecter of seasons and us what we have gained in past seasons to encourage and help someone make through theirs’.


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My thoughts exactly … a well put and worded post on homosexuality and how it should be handled and regarded by christians and the church.

Jesus. God Loves Bummyla

Christianity and Homosexuality Part 2






(Sermon Note/ Sunday School/ Bible Study)






“That ye put off concerning the former conversation the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts;” Ephesians 4:22






Read:  Romans 1:21-28







So far we have discussed what homosexuality really is, societal attitude and what the Bible says about it. Now, we shall be examining the dangers involved in homosexuality, Christian’s response to the homosexual and homosexual marriages.







Unlike other sins, this sexual sin has a judgment administered by God Himself: He gives them over to their passions and “to do those things which are not convenient—-in the old sense of that word, that is, “not becoming,” “indecorous,” “shameful.” (Romans 1:26-28). This means that their hearts…

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My thoughts exactly … a well put and worded post on homosexuality and how it should be handled and regarded by christians and the church.

Jesus. God Loves Bummyla

Christianity And Homosexuality Part 1






(Sunday School/ Bible Study/ Sermon Note)


“And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a reprobate mind, to do those things which are not convenient;” (Romans 1:28)






Read: Romans 1:21-28







Today, especially in the western world, homosexuals and lesbians have gained substantial momentum. They have “come out” as the term goes, left their closets. Through television, radio, newspapers and magazines, they are preaching their doctrine of tolerance, equality, justice, and love. They do not want to be perceived as abnormal or dangerous. They want to be recognised and accepted socially, politically etc. in this study we shall examine the biblical perspective and the Christian worldview as touching this subject matter. Be blessed!






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Long Time No Read ….

Hi Everyone.

I first have to say it feels good to be back on my blog! This has been a rather eventful two weeks. My family, on both my side and my husband’s side, went through and experienced the deaths of our grandparents.

I believe that through the grace and mercies of God that we are doing well and I have overcome. Although we naturally miss their presence we do not mourn as those who have no hope in Jesus Christ.

We have been given a sense peace that surpasses all of our understanding. God has truly answered my prayers because a few weeks ago when everything took place I honestly did know how I was going to make it through the next week following our grandparents deaths.

But here I am LOL.

Still alive and kicking and on the other side.

God most definitely is faithful.

So, I pray that everyone has had a wonderful weekend and holiday and I pray that your week as well be blessed.

Fight and Love a little harder today. Understand that the picture is always bigger than what we initially see. 

Keep your hope and your faith in Christ Jesus. Don’t let anyone pull you out from the grace and mercies of God.

If you want something real, something durable, something that will last seek God  because only what is done through Christ will last.

Love you Guys


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After Hours …

Good Evening Everyone …

Blogging … After Hours

 I guess that is how I would greet you all at 11:16pm … normally do not post after work hours LOL as that is the time when I am really just alone with my thoughts and things are still for the most part. I shared with my Blogger Buddy Napthali that I do my best thinking at work and I also do it at night but those are mostly jotted in my journal.

But I just wanted to share that .. I am truly excited. I as well as my husband and our families have encountered a lot in this past week. I have been challenged on all sides and almost contemplated throwing in the towel on a few occasions but as the word says this present suffering does not compare to the glory that is to be revealed.

We have to fight, fight to believe even when the promise is no where in sight.

Anyway, I was sharing with my husband that in a little less than a month we will be celebrating out first year anniversary.  It seems as though we just got married week before last. Seems like 3 weeks ago I was mailing out invitations and trying to shed some more inches off my waste so I could hopefully squeeze into my dream dress.

I remember a promise soon coming into reality … God’s promise to both me and husband was just days away from manifesting in the natural. Nothing was stopping us and nothing was getting in our way.

Then in a matter of minutes (which my Pastors reminded me of at every counseling) it was done.

But was it really done….

…..  or was it only just beginning?

I think a few months into the promise manifesting we realized that this was only the beginning.

I didn’t mean to go that far into it … I only wanted to share with you all that in less than a month we will be celebrating our first year anniversary of marriage and I am going to do a post about what I have learned in our first year.

I am excited about that and I can tell you now that one thing I learned and learned rather quickly is that marriage is hard work. But this work I am passionate about come hell or high water.

Truly… what God has joined together let no one separate (Mark 10:9)

I do have many other things that have transpired of these past few days I am going to post about as well so



Don’t Get Mad … Get Better

When your mate expresses their heart to you … although some words may not be so easy on the ears … listen with an open un-offended heart. Sometimes, the best way to find out who we are and what our strengths and weaknesses are, is to find out from the ones we share our bed and lives with. No, Love is not always sweet roses, fresh and in bloom … sometimes it is about growth and maturity. Before getting bent out of shape, take time to do self inventory .. there may very well be much truth to what they are saying. Don’t get mad … get better.


Happy Birthday Mi Love

Happy Birthday Mi Love

                 I would love for everyone to help me wish my husband a

“Happy Birthday” 

Birthday Verse

“What is more, I consider everything a loss compared to the surpassing greatness of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord, for whose sake I have lost all things. I consider them rubbish, that I may gain Christ”Philippians 3:7 

This post is dedicated to my Best Friend, My King, My Lover, My Partner, My Boyfriend, My husband.

 I just simply want to let you know that I Love You. And I am honestly finding it hard to do this post because I celebrate you everyday. I thank God for you …. Everyday. I tell you I Love you everyday. You know that my feelings for you are constant … I love you in good times bad times and so-so times.  

God made me specially for you and because of this I am honored. I love you with every fiber of my being. It is an honor to be placed beside such a diligent, hardworking and loving man as yourself. I pray that I can be strong enough to support you and help push you in your journey God has planned for you.

For he knows the plans he has for you … plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope in a future. I am glad He saw me in His plan for you.  

I pray that this day is as unique as you. You are a gift created by God for me and you are a light in this world. Let your light shine Boo.

 I am proud of who you are and who you are becoming and I pray God gives you the desires of your heart and that every thing your hands touch prospers.

 God Bless You Man of God,

  Love you always,   

Mrs. Strader