One Week ago my husband and I attended a couples workshop at our church (www.ngimlive.org shout out to Pastors Michael and Danielle Hathaway lol). And we had an awesome time exploring the ins and outs of this thing called “Marriage”.
We played games-one to see how well we knew each other and the second a trust game – and might I add me and my husband blew it out the water. We also had questions written by each of our spouses and it was anonymously placed in the basket and pulled at random throughout the workshop.
It was our turn to pull from the basket and the question was
” What does love and understanding really consist of?”
That question for some odd reason had utterly blew my mind; and not in a bad way. It made me think… I don’t know about my husband but I know I have had so many light bulb moments in regards to our relationship, and how we co-exist together, how we treat each other and how being together allows me to see “Me” and how he sees “Me” too and vice versa.
We see so much more than our “surface”. We see more than that facade we can easily put up for others. My husband sees that weak, quiet, vulnerable and bruised side that others might not see. He sees me when I take off my cape because I know my arms are not strong enough to win the battle. He see’s my insecurities, he knows my fears.
He has witnessed my fits of rage and my bouts with confusion, he has rescued me from depression.
But in all of this he see’s and loves deeply and often without hesitation “Me”.
It reminds me of Ephesians 5 22
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.”
So when we pulled the question
“What does love and understanding really consist of?”
It made me think of Christ’s undying love for us. That in spite of all of our foolishness and vanity and despite all of our “quirks” he loves us. He can look at us and see right through us and see what we have been destined to become. He is able to look at the least of them and see the King and Queen inside.
The love me and my husband share says “No matter what you do, no matter what you say .. I love you” . Our love says I will keep no memory of any wrongs. Our love says I know you aren’t perfect. Our love says I know your weaknesses and what makes you angry.
Our understanding we have with each other says ” I know that you are a ball of imperfection but I know and understand that there is more to you than what many think they see. I understand that you have a call of greatness on your life. I understand God has entrusted you with me and me with you and I want you to understand your life is safe in my hands. I Understand that no matter what comes nothing will tear us apart. Because when no one else understands “I do”.